Spouse / Partner Lessons

This page has a growing list of short video lessons for spouses or partners of people struggling with pornography or sexual addiction. Each lesson covers a different topic in recovery and provides practical solutions to maintaining a steady recovery process.


It’s easy to blame yourself for not seeing “obvious” signs or symptoms of his addiction long before you finally discovered what was going on. This video helps you understand why you were not in a position to have known.

There is no way to know for sure whether an addict’s recovery is real. However, there are some things a recovering addict can do to demonstrate a visible commitment to recovery.

This video gives several examples of proactive, visible, daily recovery behaviors to build trust in a partner.

When partners decide to set boundaries for addicts, sometimes punishments are used instead. This video describes the differences between punishments and boundaries and demonstrates why boundaries are preferable in recovery.